Conversational Skills /Social Skills
This skill is super important and will improve your interactions with women dramatically.

It will improve your interactions with everyone dramatically.

Skilled listening and demonstrating understanding/empathy is the secret of great conversation - specifically show that you can
understand them and empathize with them. The master listener can quickly understand another's world, perspective, pains, hopes,
beliefs, likes and dislikes - in other words, their essence, from conversing. Everyone wants to be understood.

See the vibe section two sections above for some foundation.


The Rules
● See the voice section above. It's very important to understand 80-90% of communication is not in the words, but how you
say it.





Building Rapport/Active Listening
I got this from some ebook, called 7 responses for Rapport by an author named, Tung. Their website is gone, unfortunately.

The 3 Simple Steps to Rapport is basically just another way to describe "active listening"
1.  Listen to what the other person is trying to express by observing their body language, tone of voice, and then finally their words.





Never Run out of Things to Say
Do not be a questioning interviewer. That is a huge turn off.

Go deeply into a topic. Each topic is like a tree with many branches. People often make the mistake of asking questions and then
switching to another tree so to speak. They end up sounding like an interrogator and it's conversational suicide. Explore the topics.
There are so many branches and each one will provide you with more content and ways to learn about her.





How to Bring out Emotions/Feelings and Build a Real Connection
Sharing substantial insights about the four areas below really brings out emotions/feelings in her and yourself. This creates very strong
connections because it's real and close to each other's hearts, which is different from "safe" topics like the weather where there is no
vulnerability because you're both hiding behind a wall. Prepare and be ready to share three answers to each:
● Passions/favorite things to do





Just Contribute Something
Here's a big secret. You don't have to be original or clever to contribute. This applies especially to group interactions. Just giving
your feelings/emotions/opinion is enough quite often. Just contributing shows that you're cool and engaged in the interaction. Many
introverts such as myself mistaken silence as respect when we feel we have nothing interesting to add. Ironically, this silence says that
we are arrogant and aloof. So say something!


Good and Bad Topics
Good Topics
● Her past relationships
● Her perspective on dating






Other Tips
● Call her by name occasionally.
● Always wait your turn to speak
● Share openly
● Do not force topics if they're unwelcomed.
● Do not revisit a dead topic. It looks desperate.
● Get experience talking. Talk to the old, young (not too young, you might look like a pedophile), man, woman, homosexual, etc.
Looks and Fashion Style
Appearance is broken down into physical, fashion style, grooming, hair, skin, and body language.

Appearance is so important for four reasons. One, it shows that you respect yourself. Two, to attract her. Three, you looking good
makes her look good. This is explained further under the "approach" section and under the "charm" section. Fourth, you make all
Asians look better by dressing well to beat the stereotypes.





Physical
Symmetry is the key. Also look at golden ratios for the face and achieve it using hair styles suited for your face. If you don't know
then find a stylist to do it for you.

Eating and sleeping is the MOST IMPORTANT PART!

Note: I heard that you shouldn't work out when you're still growing, but I don't know if it's just a hoax. Do your own research.

Protein Daily Requirement
Eat 0.60g protein per pound of your target body weight per day when bulking - For example, if you're 165 pounds and wish to
become 170 pounds then eat 102 grams of protein per day (calculated as 170 x 0.60)





Fashion Style
Always stand out (without looking silly). Never look generic. A woman is much more picky about fashion and oddly, less picky
about your looks (though, it still helps a lot) than men.

Look better than the average. Buy nice clothes, shoes, accessories, etc. If you look average then many women will simply ignore
you. Many women have type(s) that they like. Try to look like a positive stereotype (rocker, ceo, surfer, etc).





Grooming and Hygiene
● Brush and floss your teeth in the morning and at night and after EACH meal/snack. Your teeth are super important to your health.
Just trust me.
● Groom your hair with pomade or an oil. Avoid the gels. It looks too hard and unnatural.





Hair
What you want is to get a haircut that makes your face look slim and oval in shape. If your hair is puffy or long at the sides, it will
make your head look too round and will hide your jaw line. That means your sides need to be short. However you want to have
medium length hair up top which will make you look stylish and sharp.
I stole this from http://dangerzoneq.xanga.com/759444840/foundations-part-3-the-look/

Skin
Ask a dermatologist and use accutane if you have chronic acne. I don't know if this actually works. I think most people have diet
problems that cause acne. Switch to a vegan diet and look into mercury chelation (see Andy Cutler). I recommend people to fix their
diet and only use medication as a last option.

Use m2 lotion to fix hyperpigmentation from acne if you have them

Body Language
Use the Feldenkrais Method and solve your posture problems forever. It's better than the Alexander Technique.

There is an entire book on body language by Allan Pease and Paul Ekman micro expression training.

Be more expressive than normal to look like you care and more importantly, to clearly communicate your emotions. This must be
emphasized for us Asians because we tend to look very unemotional.

Relax
Especially relax your eyes and your jaw. You ever see a cute animal? Notice the way you look at it. It's happy and warm, isn't it? (I
hope). This opens people up and trust you.




Manners
Adopt better manners. Don't spit on the street, say "excuse me" when appropriate, drive safely, chew with your mouth closed, don't
litter, shutup when chewing, and don't talk too loudly (think Asian restaurants).


Financial
Most of you already handle this well. If not, get yourself a blue collar type contractor skill set. You'll never be out of work and better
than that you can get paid in cash and avoid paying much taxes to incompetent and corrupt war-mongering governments. I
understand that many of you will feel that such work is beneath you, but I recommend this because there are very few changes to
keep up with (contrast with IT, accounting, medicine, pharmaceutical, sciences, and other STEM careers)....




Lifestyle
Having an interesting life by doing things. Go places, do stuff, see things, learn new things by taking classes, attend events, meet
people, etc. Simply, have things to talk about. This can all be done with a modest budget of $100-$300 a month. On a semi related
note, did you know Korea's national past time is Starcraft? A guy died from playing 2 days straight without a break. It's things like
this that just paint the rest of us as losers.

Try to add some volunteer activity into your lifestyle. It's a good way to give back and humanize yourself. It will help you in dating as
well but I blatantly share that because women can smell it that "transactional mindset" of the nice guy.


States Resonate
This is super important. States resonate.

This is very important for vibe, which is the section below.

Whatever mental/emotional state you're in is the state other people will experience by being with you.




Creepy: How to Avoid It
First of all, women like to label any man she doesn't like as creepy. This is completely retarded but it's quite common. Two men can
do the same thing. She'll label the guy she's attracted to as charming and she'll label the guy's she's not attracted to as creepy - for the
same actions. It's a sick way to quickly hurt a guy's reputation when all she really meant was she's not interested but didn't want to
appear shallow. However, there are other times when there are legitimate reasons why someone is creepy...




Vibe
Read the section above, states resonate, until it's deep in your skull.

● Have a warm energy. Just appear to enjoy life. Don't fake being "cool". Don't try to prove yourself.

● Avoid looking stern, aloof, angry, pensive or any other negative/disinterested look.




Voice
Communication is 80-90% nonverbal (not the words). Thus, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. You can talk about
anything but if you act confident and calm, speak with a strong voice, warm and confident eye contact, relaxed and open body
language, she'll generally respond well.


How to Fix Yourself
Every weakness that I've pointed out so far has a solution on this page. This is your bible for self-improvement. I have made a
separate page to teach how Asian males can meet and get a girl.

Many of the fixes here does three things:
Reduce racism because they have nothing to laugh about since you don't fit their stereotypes. Women are more likely to see you as
a man and other men will see you as an harder target.
Build your confidence levels because you're more competent
● You will be more attractive to girls because of the way you look and more importantly because of your newfound confidence.
Your confidence will feed into your interactions with people and make them more comfortable with you.

You're constantly communicating with the world with our behaviors/body language/confidence. In the case of many manipulated
Asian men who have been assaulted by racist lies in the media their whole lives, it says "I'm not worthy. I hate myself". This is why
you must be the best that you can become and change your mindset and adopt powerful frames for Asian men so the signal that you
project to the world is "I like myself."

People behave in ways that mirror your internal beliefs. If you hate yourself and think you're uncool then others will see you in the
same way. If you see yourself as cool then others will see you in the same way.

Working out, dressing well, making money, it attracts women not only because it's objectively attractive, but because it also changes
your self image to be more attractive. It's the confidence it gives you from experiencing success.

Always strive to become the best version of yourself. If you were a lump of clay then sculpt yourself into a masterpiece. There are
infinite degrees of success but you'll be doing well when you can be proud of who you are as determined by the way you treat
people, the way others treat you, the way you look, the quality of your thoughts, your accomplishments, etc.

You MUST become better.. Women will ALWAYS select the strongest. The media attacks us with racist stereotypes, but the
media can't hide your greatness (if you decide to become great).

If you want a great girl then become a great guy.

Having women in your life is the byproduct/side effect of becoming a great guy. When you're a great guy, you'll find that you don't
have to try to hard to get women. The only aspect of meeting women you need to learn are some basic skills which I describe in this
guide near the bottom as well as on how Asian men get the girls.


Defy negative stereotypes
Just be a non-negative-stereotypical Asian guy and this alone will make your life a LOT easier. I cannot stress this enough.





Have Balls
Approach girls persistently but non-desperately. Show your WANT but not a NEED. Make sense? Communicate your interest
and desire for her but you and her should know that you have options and it's no big deal if it doesn't work out. You behavior should
say "There's so much opportunity out there, it's no big deal".

Speak up. Confront racists. Help your fellow Asian if they're being bullied.



Quit Watching Porn
Go to the website. Your brain on porn. And completely stop watching porn. Use leechblock and add pornsites there, destroy or
store your porn collection somewhere too troublesome to reach. Basically, porn kills your motivation, drains your energy, turns you
into a beta male, raises your standards of beauty to unrealistic levels,.and you fool yourself into thinking that you're content when
you're alone masturbating. Bad idea.


Increase your Testosterone
Testosterone is the chemical that makes a man a man. You want more of this and you can increase your testosterone by:
● Avoiding porn and avoiding masturbation
● Competing (business, sports, meeting women)

Mature view on Sexuality
All humans are sexual, but society wants to believe only men are sex crazed. It's stupid. I think people should be selective but when
they are in a serious loving relationship based on mutual trust, respect and good-intentions for the long term then it's okay to have
sex. Short term flings seem like fun, but it's usually done out of insecurity, low self esteem, revenge, or immaturity.




Sex Skills
This would take me too long to write, but there's a great book on it by a fellow Asian, Sex God Method by Daniel Rose.

Sex is very important in a long term relationship. Don't be the selfish lover. Make her happy in bed. Also, don't ever use sex as a
way to control women. That's next level scumbaggery.


Penis Enlargement
I'm not writing this because you're Asian. I'm writing this because some men, from any ethnicity have small penises - white, Black,
Hispanic, Asian, etc. There are actually legitimate penis enlargement exercises that WORK. The penis is like a muscle/tissue. It can
be exercised with the right methods to increase length and girth.

Before you even consider this, I need to warn you about those racist "studies" that claim Asian men have small penises. It's a lie.



Relationship
Avoid feminazi brainwashed women. Be extremely careful about entering long term relationships in countries with punitive and unjust
"common law"/"co habitation"/divorce laws such as america.

There's no fool proof advice. The only thing I can tell you is be all the things...





Embrace Gender Equality/Less Patriarchy
I've read that some Asian females date out because they want to avoid unjust patriarchy. I can't say I blame them. From what I've
read, some East Asian countries can be particularly brutal about this in ways that resemble early 1900's usa. This avoidance goes
triple for non-Asian females who grew up enjoying more gender equality and could never go back, at least not to extreme patriarchy.
I think most women would like somewhat traditional gender roles, but not forced upon them. The key thing is to show you respect
them as equals. Embrace each other's differences but give mutual respect and treat them as your equal. Remember, you two are like
a nut and bolt - different pieces but both are needed to make a bond.


Romantic Gestures 101
It's all about the thoughtfulness, effort, uniqueness, and gayness.

Ironically, the most romantic things that will stay in her mind are unplanned things that just happened in the moment. These things
don't take much effort nor are they unique or really gay. It's as simple as giving her your coat when she's cold and she later finds out
you were sick.





Cockblocks
Cockblocks are people that try to intimidate you, interrupt you, or embarrass you when you're talking to girls. You simply ignore
them or you can ask them to repeat themselves (pretend you can't hear them) until they look retarded. Simple and effective.

Every now and then some idiot will get physical, you'll need to stand your ground and fight.
Command Respect
First, you need to deserve respect. Act in a way that says you respect yourself. Dress well, be confident, and treat others well.
They should treat you well. However, some people will still try to mess with you.

Very few people messed with me because I always fought back. You need to be the same with women. It's different since you
don't physically fight. You simply put your draw your boundaries and when they step over them, you cut them off until they
apologize. You have to be firm but civil. You can't wimp out. If they don't apologize then, they're not worth it because they
already don't respect you, but at least you have your dignity. Usually, it takes one hardcore example to put people in their place.

Often, however, the girl is just testing your character (on this page under "beat shit tests") so don't over-react or she'll think you're
nuts.

Charisma/Charm
Charm is making people feel valuable (not just good) by spending time with you. This is explained by the concept, mirroring.

We like others based on how much we perceive them to like us...






Be fun
People are all dying to live life and have fun, but nearly everyone is scared to death of looking like an idiot so they hold back.
People are not interested in talking about work generally, they do so because it's safe. If you can bring fun and allow them to be
free, they'll love you for it. You are their escape of a boring life that almost all adults suffer. My best advice is to do

The key thing is to be...





Humor
Be humorous, but not clownish. Humor is like salt. You want some sprinkled on, but not too much. Crack a joke every now and
then to make them feel comfortable/relaxed that you're not a stern humorless weirdo, but you MUST show your serious side,
sexual side, vulnerable side, and other sides. The fulltime clowns are never taken seriously.




Coolness
Cool is "effortlessness skill/success".

The more effortless it appears and the more skill that is required the cooler you look. A guy hitting a bulls-eye with darts while
smiling at a barmaid is dripping with cool because it's hard as hell and he looks effortless.

Here's the two part secret:
● Effortless people work very hard and never tell you.





Mystery
Mystery is created by three things:
● The defiance of stereotypes.
You simply cannot be boxed into anything. For example, you play sports (jock), know computers (geek), play drums (musician),
volunteer (big heart), etc. There is no stereotype called big heart geeky musical jock. When you have multiple interests/personas
to you then you automatically avoid getting labeled anything. You become that elusive guy who decided what he wanted to
become instead of fitting to a role.
Seduction Skills/Game
This is more of a way of thinking than an exact skill. It's a combination of:
Understanding what women want and how they think
Having a healthy mindset





Escalate Romantically/Sexually
Once you have attracted her and are holding a normal conversation with her, escalating is 80-90% of getting her.
Serious.

I take this from my personal life and accounts from other men.




Show Affection
Asians are typically clinical and stingy with displays of affection and it's very alien to non-Asian women (probably Asian women too -
especially westernized ones).

Show affection using the same ideas from the escalation section immediately above. Obviously, the amount you give depends on if
you two just met or are dating.





Beat Shit Tests
A shit test is anything a female uses to test your character/congruence. She'll make fun of you, demand that you do weird things for
her, disrespect you, intimidate you, etc. Ignore them or answer them jokingly. Do not get angry. The choice depends on the intensity
of her test.

Be happy that she's testing you, because it means she's interested and each test you pass only increases her attraction towards you.

Here's the craziest example I experienced. It's a series of tests by some really hot 9.5/10 co-worker.
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