How to Get a Girl
Here's the real life summary of getting a girl for Asian men:
● Fix your mindsets here and here - 2 weeks to 6 months max, I hope.
● DO NO MATCH THE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES - NONE OF THEM! - not the look, voice, accent, girly
behaviors - NONE OF THEM!
Tricks Don't Work
Pickup lines, speed seduction, gimmicks, pumping your state, etc are pointless because they're fake and unsustainable. Eventually,
you two will get to know each other and the real you will be revealed. If the real you sucks then you will always lose the girl unless
she has low self esteem/history of abuse/etc (don't prey on these girls). That's why I keep telling you to get your mindset and mental
frames in the right place. If you want to get and keep a quality girl then you'll have to man up sooner or later.
Review the following pages again if you need a refresher:
5 emotions She Must Feel
● Attraction - see physical appearance, voice, body language, and comfort and trust (the emotional states)
Be Persistent but Light
It’s in the nature of women to push guys away even when they’re interested. Persistence is attractive when kept light and casual.
Women like bold confident guys. They’ll throw things at you to try to knock you down (feminine trait to feel a man’s strength), but as
you push through they get more turned on. Boy chases girl. It’s been that way since the beginning of time and it’s always worked. I
1. Find them
The BEST way to meet them is through an activity, classes, social groups, presentations, and shared interests such as:
● Dance classes (salsa, swing, ballroom, etc)
● Political organizations or events
● Concerts and concert promotions
Identify interested girls
With the exception of super hot or high status or rich guys, the main reason (outside of basic foundation like confidence and social
skills) why a guy does well with women is because he identifies women that are into him and approaches them. He doesn't approach
However, if you have the balls then trigger her interest and then see if she engages back. Read the signals section near the bottom of
Her impression and thus the most important parts of your approach are (in order of importance):
● not matching any negative stereotypes - looks, vocal, accent, girly behaviors, too polite, etc
● Looks and body language
"Hi, I noticed you and wanted to meet you" works fine when said casually in a non-needy way.
During the day, I preface the approach with “Excuse me, this is kind of random...” The vast majority of my approaches begin with,
“Hi, my name is Tim." They work so use it.
Trolling/pranking is great. This shows that you can have FUN and gives them emotions straight away. Creating situations is often the
best way to engage someone.
The easiest way to start conversations are observational. Observe their body language, facial expressions, physical actions, their
surroundings/context, the people interacting with them, etc.
People may look bored or impatient when waiting in line, shocked by something they read, smiling because of something they're
listening to, rubbing their hands because they're cold, furrowing their brows because they can't decide, etc. Use those as simple
observations to make natural and highly effective openers.
When you open in such a way it shows that you are normal and you understand them and have social savvy and it's such a natural
way to converse.
You can make a statement or question about her mood, what she's wearing. about the situation, her comfort, the situation, etc.
Here are lots of examples:
3.5 Escalate/Show Interest
80-90% of meeting women is THIS. The rest is being attractive and normal. Serious.
I take this from my personal life and accounts from other men and even books that I've read. They all agree on this. If a girl likes you,
she will generally...
Close means whatever it means to you. It could mean number, kiss, sex, whatever, except military salutes. You should always try to
close her. Rejection will happen, but you need to try otherwise you'll be in the friend-zone. Take it from me, an highly decorated
veteran, who has done over a dozen tours in friend-zone, you want to close.
4.x Kiss: All you need to know
Signs that she's ready: prolonged eye contact, she looks at your lips, touched already, sitting/standing close together, alone, and
gotten attraction and rapport.
● Ensure good breath and moist lips
4.x Asking for a Date
See planning the date in next section for good ideas
4.x Planning the Date
Always do evening action dates that are close to either your place or her place. It builds a greater sense of expectation. There’s
more flexibility to spend more time together. It’s more of a commitment. And it leaves the option open for you or her sleeping over.
5. Going on the Date
Dates are the most straightforward part of the process.
When you talk or meet again, you need to reestablish the attraction. You cannot fall back on old interactions. It's a constant
seduction even after marriage.
How to Read Signals
Signs that she's interested:
● Looks at you. Especially if done multiple times and especially long gazes.